Earlier this week my colleague and friend, Avi Orlow, was amongst the many voices who shared their reflections on the passing of Maurice Sendak, acclaimed children’s book author and illustrator. Avi recounted the tale of Sendak meeting Professor Yosef Chaim Yerushalmi who asked if his mother had called him a ‘Vilde Chaye’ (wild beast). Stunned, Sendak asked him how he knew, to which Yerushalmi replied “you wrote the book on it, no?”
Where The Wild Things Are is not only a tale of Sendak’s own inner ‘vilde chaye’, as portrayed by Max in the book, but of the place in each of us that feels different, slightly lost, disconnected, and yearning for home. For Avi, this reminded him of the plight of the Jewish people themselves. For me, I can’t help but to think about Sendak as a gay man who came of age long before there were any laws protecting his rights or preserving his dignity. Given the homophobic climate in which Sendak grew up, is it any wonder that his Max jumped into a ship and sailed out into the night searching for a land where he could not only belong but could become king?
Sendak died this week at the age of 83. By many accounts, he led a full and prolific life, leaving behind an incredible legacy for generations of children to come. It would be hard to say that he was taken from us too soon but today that’s exactly how I feel. Sendak was taken from this world exactly one day too early. Had he lived for just another 24 hours he would have witnessed an historic occasion on which, for the first time ever, a sitting US President affirmed his belief in same-sex marriage.
Although too late for Maurice Sendak and many others, President Obama’s declaration is great cause for celebration – not only for adult same-sex couples but for young LGBTQ teens who desperately need to feel less like ‘vilde chaye’ and more like everyone else around them. And what about the children who Sendak dedicated his life to by nurturing their imagination through his pictures and stories? For those who might identify as LGBTQ someday or those who are being raised by parents who are, the President gave all them the gift of belonging – he signaled to them that they and their families are just like everyone else. He gave them a land in the US where they too could become king.
Obama’s affirmation of same-sex marriage this week has the opportunity to become a legacy for generations to come if followed by legislation to give legal stature to his beliefs. As an optimist, I believe that I will see this happen sooner rather than later, and definitely within my lifetime.
As a realist, I know that we still have a duty to create and seek out safe spaces for all children where they thrive, belong, and connect. I can think of no better place for that than summer camp and I’m happy to share with you a new tool called the Equality Guide being released by Keshet. The Equality Guide will help parents find LGBTQ affirming camps, as well as synagogues, and day schools. To ensure that your organization is included in the searchable database they are creating please click here and fill in your information.
In the meantime, let’s celebrate President Obama’s affirmation and Sendak’s life in the only way fitting: with a rousing round of a wild rumpus dance fit for would-be kings who now can be just that.
- Scott McGrath is the Associate Director, New Camp Initiatives at FJC. He also volunteers with Keshet as a trainer and advisor, working towards the full inclusion of LGBTQ Jews in Jewish life.